ugh... help me respond to this please

[MrBond]

"Break the cycle by not answering her questions? Im not sure how being obtuse is going to make her want to contact me."

Is there any reason why you keep asking people for advice, yet when they give it, you don't listen?

Pay attention:

1) Nobody said to not contact her AT ALL. We all have said to wait awhile before answering. As if you had more important things to do instead of jumping through her hoops. And before you argue against that, she is making you dance to her tune. You've had no say in your M sitch and she's controlled the whole sitch.

2) You keep having this issue about wanting her to contact you. You sat around and did nothing to initiate (your version of going dark) and you got hit with D papers. You may think she's being much friendlier so that gives you a chance. NOT SO. She's being friendly because she feels that soon she doesn't have to deal with you anymore. It's relief. So far going through your posts, that seems to be her thinking.

So stop contacting her when she asks for something. Give it a month and then call her out of the blue. Or if she calls, wait a day and then call her back and say something like "sorry I missed your message" I was out. If you get her VM, leave that message, then turn off your phone. That will help stop the temptation of thinking of her.

3) Start taking control of your life and start doing things that YOU want to do. That will help YOU. Not just finding a new job, but something else that can enrich YOUR life.