I saw a thread today about BIRTHDAYS. I was going to post on there but didn't want to hijack it. Figure I will vent here and then maybe have something good to say over there.
H and had a talk today about our S11 b-day that is coming up. He asked me what WE are doing for him. My first reaction was WE, what WE. You wanted out so there is no we. I told him S wants to go to movies with some friends. And I was going to take them unless he was planning on it. He doesn't really answer that but wants to know about cake and stuff. So I told him that he could go over to his mom and dad's and do cake and I would do stuff here for him.
H did not like this idea at all. He thinks just because we are seperated doesn't mean we can't do things together with the kids. I disagree. H wanted out. H didn't want to put the effort into trying to work on M. So why do I have to feel uncomfortable in my home because of this. I think he should have thought about what was going to happen when he left.
Maybe its being selfish, but screw him. I am dealing with all the day to day heartache from D and all the weird behavior from S's. Being able to provide a nice birthday for S without H making me uncomfortable isn't too much to ask. I am not saying he can't spend some time with S on b-day, just not in my house.
Okay venting done.
Me:35, 2 kids from PR H: 37, 2 kids with me T: 15 years M: 8 years in Feb. Second walk out: 14-01-2011 H had PA: 2007
