Living a Country Song - Part III

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I thought it was about time I reflect on things a bit. I was feeling a bit anxious and impatient again recently, so I need to step back.

Wife leaves early January.

For 2 weeks, I beg, plead, peruse, barging, cry, etc. W gets more and more frustrated and distance grows larger and larger.

W won’t even come to the house alone. When she needed to bring D by, brought her dad with her. W won’t even come to house when I am NOT at home. Uncomfortable even being there. We did go to a couple of counseling sessions here, but W came in with only one attitude, IT IS OVER! I realize this type of counseling will not help our situation.

I start to look for help. I haven’t discovered DB yet, but a lot was similar. I mellow way out, but still not doing great, but a big improvement over the first 2 weeks. We meet to discuss finances. W comes as cold as can be. Straight faced, very cold. I see her for the first time without her ring on. I can’t help myself, I say things I shouldn’t, she basically leaves very angry. She says at this point she is going to contact a lawyer and going forward everything will go through them. I apologize for saying what I did and smoothed things over a bit.

I discover DB! I drop all R talks. I start to make improvements I need to make. I get GREAT advice on this forum! I go ”dim.” Text messages from her start to increase. She even starts to call sometimes. I stay friendly but rarely initiate contact. Things get friendlier.

Yesterday we have our first real, friendly and fun face to face interaction since this all began.

I think it is important in all of this craziness to step back and reflect a little bit. I think it can be easy, at least for me, to not notice the progress you are making. The end goal is still so far away, but don’t forget where you started!