I dunno, just an idea. It could be crazy. As i said, my W also brings up the past and cannot seem to let of my past issues. I've been thinking that if my W does decide to come back into the marriage, I would suggest that we 'marry' again. You know, do the whole ceremony thing, just that it would be on a much smaller scale. I guess if you do that, symbolically you can guys can leave the past behind. Who knows, maybe your wife needs that symbolism to leave that past behind and treat you as a new person. It might/might-not have that effect. just my 2c.
BITS M 38 W 36 D 7 Married 15 yrs W left for 6 months in 2009 W Filed for D 01/03/11 piecing now...