Some women do tend to bring up things from the past. I feel that you need to try to get it across to her that you can't go back and change the past but both of you can learn from it. Is she willing to face this as a new M and have some guidelines as to how to stay positively focused? If you don't have some sort of stucture or goals for the M, then I'm concern that you will end up staying in limbo and being unhappy.
If she will not agree to that much, I don't what else to do. Maybe some people who have much, much more patient than I do will come along to help.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
