Yea, seems like I'm not alone Sandi2. I'm probalby traveling the same road as lots of others. I'm going to keep posting my progress - ups and downs - maybe there's something here to could help someone else, like folks have been helping me. Really in a much better place lately.
Let's see how this goes in the week or so. I'm filling up to calendar and working the plan. Those books [edited by dbmod: advertising/not recommended] really apply to my situation. One thing I've learned is that I'll never be able to keep up with W's plans and new ideas - partly she's got high energy and partly because she's an ACOA who stays busy busy as a coping strategy. I'm not going to overreact to every idea - moving, new jobs, new schooling option for kids. I'm going to try and do my thing - be a good H - but with SOMETHING of my own going on.
Less than 2 weeks before W heads off with her office to sunny beach town in Europe for meetings :|
My goal is to get it together and NOT give any indication that I'm bothered by her trip. "Have a good time!" Then stay so busy while she is away I hardly notice she's gone. Lining up visits with friends and family.
Still feel like I have a window of time to get this right. But maybe not a lot of time. Could be I'm just in the dark about it. Nevertheless, ignoring W's boss for now. Encouraging W to go out to renew old friendships. Took boys for a hike. Hitting the gym when I can.
Oldest S is having some trouble with older boys so I get to guide him through that this week. Another opportunity to step up....
