My long story about my young marriage. Any hope?

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smashley: reading through your sitch brings out some points that i can relate to.

1: Your husband does not know much about relationships, except with you
2: You have a depression/anxiety which can cause you to be clingy and needy
3: You guys did not grow up with role models who had good marriages.

I have been on this path with my marriage. I was the depression prone/anxiety and needy one in our marriage. My W was lot more mature than i was. We married when i was 23 and she was 21. I did not have a good role model to look up in terms of relationships(my parents fought a lot).

One thing i can relate to your husband is that regret that he did not enjoy life before settling down. Maybe he wants to live some the bachelorhood times he sees with his buddies. If thats the case he will soon realize that "the grass is not always greener on the other side". I'd say give him some time.

I guess first off you need to ask yourself this question. How much do you love your husband? Are you willing to take this path for him, or do you think you'd be better of calling it quits. You need question your self on this and come to a decision.

But either way, i think this is also a time to face your own demons. Like your depression. Because even if you pursue a new relationship, these demons will haunt you. So during the time that your husband is trying to figure himself out, work on your self. Improve yourself. Make him feel that he's missing out on a good opportunity with you. And once he makes that step back to, work on improving your marriage bond. Talk to a marriage counselor etc.

I know it is easy for me to say to improve yourself emotionally. Hard to do. I am still battling with my depression and anxiety issues. But if i need to get my Wife and daughter back, I have to do this. Same with you.