I guess the question I would ask you Karma is this:
You were M 11yrs and for a long time she prob told you on numerous occasions she was unhappy. Did you listened? I know you heard her. I heard my W also. Did you listen and did you get it?
It is not a question of whether they will stay next time around.
It is a question of what did you contribute to the breakup and what have you done to correct it so it does not happen again, not with this W not with any W.
Your W did not get up one morning and say "I quit". After months or even years of "trying" and not getting anywhere she began to give up hope. She got to a point that she felt nothing would change and she had no choice but to leave.
I realize every sitch is different but not really.
If you take this time to fix YOU then why would she walk away. Typically women don't leave a great guy. If you look in the mirror the question shift it no longer becomes 'she left me I can't trust her again. Instead it sounds something like this
"I can't believe she stayed for so long after all I have put her through."
Can you trust her?
Can SHE trust you?
If my W and I get back together I know she will not leave again because I have traveled this road and I am a better person and will continue to be a better person. I will recognize it sooner and I will live my life being the H she deserves, the H she begged me to be before she left.
If my W does not come back I will thank my current W for putting up with me for 10yrs and thank her for the education she gave me because there is going to be a woman out there I will make very happy courtesy of my W.
