I had the same experiance. What your W and her family does for son's birthday is for them. I did not attend when W asked me to go to S3 party. I held my own party for him. That's what you do.
Your W needs to realize, unfortunately, that this is the result of her decisions.
I decided I will not miss events that are achievements for my kids. Last year D6 graduated from Pre-K class. The kids put on a show for the parents.
Two months prior to the date, she asked me if I would go out to dinner with her P's and the kids.
I simple emailed her back that I already have plans. Which I did.
They chose not to stay for the kids. We can't act as a family for the kids either.
This is reality. gr8
If i really think about it, i agree with you fully. But sometimes i feel that when we do separate things for the kids, the ones who might suffer might be the kids. Because they might feel that she are being stretched between mom and dad. I cannot seem to understand this from a kid's perspective, but will the child really want 2 parties where one of the parent is missing? When i think this way then i feel that i have swallow my pride and attend the W's party just for the sake of my kid. But in this case the spouse needs to know that you are attending just for the sake of the child. I could be wrong here.
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