Thanks Gr8 and Karma. Two different opinions and I flip flop almost hourly on what to do.

She thinks that I am being petty about this and that I am trying to Punish her but in reality in her opinion, I am punishing my son. She said that she asked if it was alright if dad didnt makt the party and he said that it was Ok, but then got sullen and his eyes welled up with tears.

She said it broke her heart to see our son hurting like this but she doesnt realize that she it the true architect to this dilemma.

If I dont go , this will reinforce her notion of me being a selfish prlck. She has villified me in the relationship so i am told by some mutual friends.

I am sick of all this as Im sure most of us are.

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M-46
W-42
M-16y
T-19 y
s10 s15
BombDec.19/09
Sep-F16/10
Sep Papers signed by W- June 30/10
Recon July 5/10
PA foundOut- Oct 30/10
Mental HospNov/10
moved out Nov/10
Leg Sep Mar 15/11