BIRTHDAY Party,NEED ADVICE

[ninelives]

My wife texted me and wanted me to go to our sons birthday party or do something with the family. Those of you that are familiar with my sitch know my wife is with OM and left our marriage last Feb, then came back in July till she got caught.

So she invites me to birthday party, recinds the invite but then begs me to go again and to do it for OUR son. That she made a mistake by recinding and that I am acting selfish and childish for not going since I told her that I will NOT go to party but I want son for one hour on that day.

She tells me that our M is over and that she is in love with OM and that she feels close to him but also in quiet moments misses our family and is really all over the map. I believe more than ever that our M is in fact over. I sign papers today for the legal sep. I ask her then when do we go for divorce and she says she doesnt even want to think about Divorce. She tells me she wants to see me happy and that I should move on with another girl.

BAck to qquestion . Do I go to birthday party. I told her thwhen she left me , that included leaving the family and occasions like this will forever be changed.

We talked for abourt an hour last night on the phone after sooooo many texts about the subject.

I am so very confused. Iknow it would be a miracle if we werer to save the marriage now but Am I really punishing my s10 for not going to the party.

PLEASE HELP

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