I think H is inviting me via D so that it is a comfortable family meal and his intentions can not be misconstrued. He is deliberately keeping it in the family zone, and as you say keeping it more casual.
Last conversation I made it very clear I would not do the 'chasing' and initiating all the time any more and that he had to be seen to initiate the friendship. I told him clearly that I was cycling and some days I really couldn't be bothered with it all. I just said it as I felt it cos I figured I really had nothing to lose. Maybe, just maybe, he took something of what I said on board. Since that convo I haven't been in touch except to respond to a text message from H.
Really, who knows?? Anyway, I have accepted the invitation. I figure that if he initiates then I am bound to accept given I have told him I expect him to initiate, even if it is via D.
And the added bonus is I have a night off cooking as well and H is a good cook.
