Iron, yes, some time apart may not be a bad idea. I was so angry when my w left, but I have come to realize that it may actually save my M in the long run. Yes, it will be hard. Yes, it will be lonely. Yes, it will not be fun at times. But, after you have done it for a period, you will start to see the benefits. I have discovered so much about myself since she left that I never knew. Most importantly, I discovered that I was a jerk to be married to and I really did need to make some changes if I was going to save myself and hopefully my M.

I agree with Denver and Lost, check out the DB Facebook page. Very helpful stuff on there!

BITS never walk alone!

FOBD

Me: 39
W: 36
T: 15 yrs
M: 9 yrs
S: 09/10

So you can get on with your search, baby
And I can get on with mine
And maybe someday we will find,
That it wasn't really wasted time...