Stuck Like "Crazy" Glue

[grr]

yeah, i could use your advice on this too

[Denver_2010]

That's a good article that grr, LIS and myself have all 'liked'!

check it out...

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Denver

[ScaredinCanada]

Hmmmm, finally found it and read through it. For once, there are a lot of things in the list (or at least parts of #1, part of #2, #3). Maybe I'm just a little different? IDK.

Anyways, as for #9 I don't think you can have the "direct, sincere, emotional, etc" conversation until you've successfully detached. I don't see how you don't respond to the "zingers" if you still feel as attached today as you did on the day you were bombed?!

I mean I'm sure you could fake it, but that doesn't seem to jive with the 12 steps to getting through to your man as a whole.

Guys are generally more direct, less emotional, but considerably more confrontational. So I guess having the concersation on his terms is probably to your advantage.

Is it possible that your H won't say intentially mean and hurtful things at this point? I mean other than the honest things they say that still hurt like hell...

I'm sorry your struggling LIS.

I'm looking forward to Saturday night when my W comes home, in hopes that some time to reflect will cause her to second guess her "fantasy", but I'm also at a point where I'm not expecting much.

[grr]

did you like or comment on it?

[Denver_2010]

Did YOU 'like' it????

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DENVER

[Boat14]

SIC

Slow down and re read.....

think outside the box

[lostinscared]

I can't imagine the emotions that you are going through SIC. I know you needed some time alone. Is that clearing your head at all???

Trust me. Ok? Hit like

[ScaredinCanada]

Sure it is, I feel more relaxed less stress. Trying to just re-charge and enjoy the one-on-one time I'm getting with the kids. Other than the day she left I really haven't thought of the W at all, it's been kind of nice considering that I thought about her constantly for the last few months.

This experience has got me thinking again about whether I really want my W back, maybe I'll be better off on my own. Myabe there is someone out there who could love me for who I am. Maybe I could find happiness in my own life without my W?

The real challenge is going to be holding everything together when she gets home, especially if she shows any little bit tha she missed me.

Did not click "Like", will not click "Like" because I'm worried my friends and family will see it and at this point I don't want to take any chances.

[Denver_2010]

Did not click "Like", will not click "Like" because I'm worried my friends and family will see it and at this point I don't want to take any chances.

I'm curious why you are afraid of your friends and family seeing that you 'like' the divorce busting fb page. Aren't they aware of what is going on?

If NOT, I'm going to suggest that you out the situation. No wonder your W feels so safe in her little make believe world...

And this must be a huge stress on you if you are hiding all of this.

Listen man, I was completely embarrassed about my sitch when it first happened... but... when I bit the bullet and decided to tell everyone, it was like the world had been lifted from my shoulders...

I literally called everyone in about the course of a couple of hours... one after the other and told them...

It was a huge relief...

JMO.

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Denver

[ScaredinCanada]

I'm not embarrassed about it.

I just have virtually everyone I know as a friend on facebook. That includes all of my friends, co-workers, family, wifes family, etc.

Some of them know the sitch, but certainly don't want the world to know.

It's only stressful when people ask say things like, "Gee your W must just love your weight loss..."