Recovering after a same sex affair - Part 3

[MrBond]

"I want to stand strong on this issue but also don't want her to see an old me that would strong arm financial matters."

There's a difference between standing strong for a belief and strong arming. Strong arming is bullying. It's saying..."you better do this or else!"

Standing strong is being responsible. You have a reason that you can share with your W. I agree. Don't beat around the bush. She has to start living with the consequences that she caused. If not, you're just enabling her.