I agree with Sandi - this is a red flag. And I say this from experience. There have been times I have dated someone, really liked them, but wished they were different in some way. I would start dropping hints, usually a bit more subtle than your new friend. But I always knew when I was doing this that it probably wouldn't work out.
You do NOT need to be a bad boy to attract a good woman. I went through my bad boy stage - my current H presented as a good guy (now he is just a confused guy). But for some women, it's not a stage and they will forever be missing the boat. Be yourself. If she can't accept that, well - that's her problem. There are plenty of us looking for good a guy.
Take care
M9+ T 11+ Me42 H44 2 kids under 5 IlYBNILWY -3/10 A discovered late 8/10 H moved out early 9/10 - back two weeks later "Taking a Break" - H moves out 1/2/10
NFTP Thanks for finding this thread. I was looking for it today.
Bomb 8/09. Brief piecing 12/10. D-2/12 Two incredible kids D9,S6 Leading new life! “Success is not to be pursued; it is to be attracted by the person we become."
I'd say be a big bad as* boy and get a tattoo of a Red Flag on your derrière. Only make sure its the kind that the dentist gives kids that can be washed off. But seriously you are dating a tribal Cave Woman.
I'm not intending to do any "bad boy" kinds of things. I know myself and I'm pretty happy just being me.
My friend and I are getting along just great and we (or at least I, I'm learning not to speak for others) seem to be happy just spending time together. She's not asked me for anything other than not to push her physically. Which is fine by me.
She is getting over a long term relationship too and I think we may both looking for reasons why we should be cautious.
M:37 W:34 M:4 years T:6 years No Kids A disclosed - 9/1/2010 W asks for separation - 10/19/2010 Moving on - 10/24/2010 A ends (and I believe her) - 12/2010 Content - 3/1/2011 Served - 3/18/2011 D Day - 6/20/2011
I'd also like to add that when a person tries to be what the OP wants (but that's not the true identity)then after M there will be quite a bit of disappointment wonderding where the make-believe person is hiding.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
