I agree with Sandi - this is a red flag. And I say this from experience. There have been times I have dated someone, really liked them, but wished they were different in some way. I would start dropping hints, usually a bit more subtle than your new friend. But I always knew when I was doing this that it probably wouldn't work out.

You do NOT need to be a bad boy to attract a good woman. I went through my bad boy stage - my current H presented as a good guy (now he is just a confused guy). But for some women, it's not a stage and they will forever be missing the boat. Be yourself. If she can't accept that, well - that's her problem. There are plenty of us looking for good a guy.

Take care

M9+ T 11+
Me42 H44
2 kids under 5
IlYBNILWY -3/10
A discovered late 8/10
H moved out early 9/10 - back two weeks later
"Taking a Break" - H moves out 1/2/10