I think you are right that there is something controlling in my desire to "want to help her". There is a latent desire to be right. I'm aware of it at least, and that is growth I think.
I don't want to be that way. I do think she hurts herself by not admitting her role. I guess I haven't figured out how to be a good a supporting friend when I see destructive behavior. And it is not just the A. Until very recently she basically never talked to anyone in her family. I push her a little to rectify that and she has. I don't know if it was my influence, but I'm glad she is talking with her sisters again.
I hate the fact that I can't see how to be friends with her. Maybe it is just still too soon.
There is more work to do.
M:37 W:34 M:4 years T:6 years No Kids A disclosed - 9/1/2010 W asks for separation - 10/19/2010 Moving on - 10/24/2010 A ends (and I believe her) - 12/2010 Content - 3/1/2011 Served - 3/18/2011 D Day - 6/20/2011
