Well my wife and i went to a party last Saturday night with her reiterating that we were just riding together; however we ended up having sex that night. We text about it for two days with her saying i cant believe we did that. Well we have been talking on a daily basis for two weeks and i though she may be coming around a little. Today i said good morning and ask her what she was doing, she said getting dressed. I the ask her if she wanted to go to dinner this weekend if she wasn't busy and she said idk yet and later followed up with maybe. Later in the day she said she was just going ahead and file her taxes by herself cause she needed money cause bills were due and she couldn't find a job. Later in the day she ask me to come by the house and pickup tax stuff so i could file jointly with her. I just dont know what to think anymore is she considering coming back or what.
I am new to this stuff myself John, but it sounds to me like you have a lot of hope in this situation. Just keep working on what YOU can control. For me, that is my actions and attitude. I wish you the best.
Well my wife and i went to a party last Saturday night with her reiterating that we were just riding together; however we ended up having sex that night. We text about it for two days with her saying i cant believe we did that. Well we have been talking on a daily basis for two weeks and i though she may be coming around a little. Today i said good morning and ask her what she was doing, she said getting dressed. I the ask her if she wanted to go to dinner this weekend if she wasn't busy and she said idk yet and later followed up with maybe. Later in the day she said she was just going ahead and file her taxes by herself cause she needed money cause bills were due and she couldn't find a job. Later in the day she ask me to come by the house and pickup tax stuff so i could file jointly with her. I just dont know what to think anymore is she considering coming back or what.
Patience my fiend. Patience.
At least you ML to your wife. I have been going on a nine month dry spell.
Me - 33 W - 33 S - 9 months M - 3 years T - 5.5 years Bomb - 12/14/10 ILYBNILWY PA discovered - 1/18/11 PA began - 3/22/10 Separated
I thought you said it was in the woods. You've got too many threads going. How about sticking to one for a while?
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Only thing that made me feel better is atleast i know she isnt sleeping with someone else or i dont think she would have been having sex with me lol
I would be careful at assuming anything, at this point.
What you don't want to you is press her......and that's what you are doing. Back off. Don't ask her to dinner. Don't ask her if she still wants a D. Just leave her alone. I know you don't understand. You don't have to understand....just do it.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
Ok, so now that you've put it out there and asked her to do something this weekend don't mention it again. She knows you want to do something, so just leave it at that. You could always make some plans for the weekend that don't involve her and then if she mentions going out you can tell her that she didn't seem like she wanted to do anything so you made other plans. If she doesn't mention it then you have something that will take your mind off of it.
Me 34 H 37 M 12/97 H moved out 03/09 D 05/10 S 17 D 12 S 11
Also (and this might sound harsh), don't put too much into the sex part. It wasn't a tender thing, it was a physical thing. While it's nice to know that she still sees you that way, it isn't a sign that she wants to come back. At least in my experience that's how it's been...
Me 34 H 37 M 12/97 H moved out 03/09 D 05/10 S 17 D 12 S 11
