Recovering after a same sex affair - Part 3

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W came by this morning to pick up our S. I had everything ready and was making her coffee. Got a one armed hug out of nowhere. Not going to lie. Felt good.

So couples therapy tonight?

I could use some help with this one. Last week was our first breakthrough where we actually talked about feelings instead of just bringing everything out in the open with new discoveries, apologies, trust issues, etc.

I hate to take a step back, but I have to bring up finances to my W tonight. This has always been a touchy subject for us in the past, but I need for her to understand that by her moving out and into her apartment as well as getting a job, we are going to split off our joint account and live off solo bank accounts.

I think she might be receptive to this and really has been doing it for the most part. I am going to have to bring up the $1900 she pulled out of our account Saturday morning that was not fully hers. I will just have to tell her that the $1800 tax refund that I agreed last week to split with her will now be going to our debts as originally planned.

I really hope this discussion does not blow up, takes 10 minutes to talk through, and allow us to talk more about us.

Any suggestions out there that may or may not know my sitch on how to get through couples therapy??