Thanks for the encouragement sparks! Been doing the 180s, GAL and detaching to various levels of success, still backslide from time to time but fewer and farther between.
One thing I still need clue x 4s on is expectations. Getting better, but when things go well those pesky expectations start creeping back in. Like today, haven't heard from W since last night before bed (I leave for work before she gets up). We usually send each other emails off and on through the day. The one I sent this morning was friendly, not pursuing and short. No response at all. Again, I expect to hear back but don't which then weighs on me.
The kids sitch in our case is different than I've seen in other threads here. W doesn't like being around my boys, so when I have them over she goes off and does things. This is one of the big sticking points in our R (that and her continued friendship w/OM). I have them tonight, so I may not see W until our C session tomorrow evening. Then again, absence does make the heart grow fonder, right?
Tonight's goal: fake it til I make it, no matter who's watching!
Me 43 W 38 M 5 T 7 SD20 S15, S13 with 1st W ILYBNILWY June 2010 Separation/Bomb July 2010 Divorce Feb 8, 2011
