Thanks Antonia - and yes it does help. Even if the MLCr is in a tunnel I sometimes think we are the ones who get tunnel vision and can't see what the world sees.

Aug - I have so much respect for you raising these 3 kids yourself. In many ways I am fortunate that my girls are in their 20s - they have been such a big help. And my S and I have grown very close and he talks to me about his feelings. I am lucky.

The divorce should be final within the next couple of weeks. I don't want it - but I need it to be over. I need to work harder on letting go completely. I'm proud of myself on many levels for how much I have been able to pull it together - but I can do better.

M-48/XH-48 M=25/T=28 years
Ds-24,22/S-18
D - 3/11
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