she wants us to be friends and be able to talk and hang out. I told her that I think that would be very hard for me.
This is something I brought up to my db couch. It is a fear all of us men share. You started out as friends, nothing wrong with going back to that. Beginners mind remember?
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Again, she started to cry when we were talking about this
This is a good thing because is shows that she still cares and still has feelings.
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she was worried I'd be mad that she spent the money.
This is also good because it shows that she is mindful of what you think and that your opinion matters. This is the same attitude my W had or has.
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She is also still very afraid that if she comes back she will be giving in and that things will go back to the way they were.
This is the one common thing most WAS share. I feel that my W is in a very similar sitch.
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I hope that it helped her, but I can't help feeling that it didn't.
It helped if you listened and validated her feelings and kept your mouth shut
