Read it today!!! Slaps self in forehead. It could really be this simple. Oh my gosh. Being the reader you are, I would have thought you read this book back in 2003 or 2004.
This could be the breakthrough you have been looking for.
They say people show love in their love language and they also tend to wound others using their love language. Words of Affirmation sounds like your wife's magic switch.
Umm...is that classmate male or female?
Me 44 She 46 S13 D9 M18 T23 3 years DB'ing Successfully busted