JS, when she said the guy hitting on her reminded her of our R, I think it was her feeling was more of her not wanting an R with anyone at this point.
A couple other things I left out earlier:
When we first started talking she told me that no matter what happens she wants us to be friends and be able to talk and hang out. I told her that I think that would be very hard for me.
We also talked about what she wants in life...the recurring theme she always brings up is that she's given up so much for me and the kids and is sick of giving. Again, she started to cry when we were talking about this. She told me that the other day she bought a Rosetta stone language learning lesson, just so she could have something to focus on in her life and feel like she was bettering herself. But, then she said she hasnt opened it yet because it was so expensive and she was worried I'd be mad that she spent the money.
She is also still very afraid that if she comes back she will be giving in and that things will go back to the way they were. I told her there's no way I will let that happen.
Quite a night...I hope that it helped her, but I can't help feeling that it didn't.
BITS M: 35 W: 35 T14, M11 D9, S6 ILYBINILY: June 09 Unofficially Separated (long distance): 1/2/11 W came home: 3/17/11 EE: July 2012 Dropped the rope: Oct 2012 Piecing: April 2013 Not piecing: April 2014 Stuck.