My Wife Wants to Separate

[JustStunned]

Hi DF, I am by no means a vet here or qualified to give advice, but I’ll offer an opinion.

Last week's session included my showing empathy to the point where W was questioning why I've changed and who I've been talking to. Also, W did standard button pushing of why did I wait until it was too late for R to change.

JMO, but you could tell her something like: “It took this wake up call for me to realize these changes are essential for me to make before I can move forward” She does not need to know who you’ve been talking to. Any mention of this site, DB or DR now could be detrimental to your goals.

I do feel like my W is in complete turmoil now and probably depressed but I'm not sure how I tell her I'm worried about her without coming off as patronizing. .

I would not tell her you are worried about this, these are things she needs to work through. Listen, validate, but remain detached from her drama.