I don't think you backslid.

As JS said, you asked her how she was doing, listened, validated. You did not act defensive, argue or bring up any other topic. You were there for her. I think that is good.

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M 38
W 36
D 7
Married 15 yrs
W left for 6 months in 2009
W Filed for D 01/03/11
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