Sitting at home with myself.

[JustStunned]

Navy, I don’t see where you backslid here.

On the way to the car I asked her if she was ok,

You acknowledged how she was feeling, giving her a chance to express herself. Remember most women just want us to listen and validate.

she told me that a random guy was hitting on her when she went out to smoke, and that made her sick to her stomach. She explained how it made her remember all the hurt she has been through with me and that she doesnt ever want to feel that way again.

So a random guy expressing interest is very unpleasant. That it reminded her of your R isn’t good, but you are working on that with 180s and being a great father to boot.

She then got really upset and started telling me about how she can't stand the pain she is causing right now, whether it be her own, or mine and the kids. Still very much in the mindset that she will be unhappy if she comes back. I just listened and validated.

The emotions and regret she expressed were hers, and she indicated she is causing it.

Keep working, keep doing what is working, be patient. You are light years ahead of my sitch, be proud of the progress and keep it up.