Sandi2, you made me laugh! Actually, yes, I'm starting to turn over the inventory of my closet. And I've been running and working out some. But mostly I'm working on laughing and smiling more - those are really my only hopes of approaching "super cute"! (see, smiling)
FaithnAK, Yep, the [edited by dbmod: advertising/not recommended] hit me pretty hard. Still digesting all that. The whole premise, that "nice guys" make a deal (I'll be "nice" and you'll like me) is pretty much right on target. Actually, at first I had a hard time imagining how else it COULD be. And that proves I'm stuck in that rut, doesn't it??? I mean, I get it that I've been "trying too hard" to make W happy and sort of lost myself in that, but I'm having to give it a lot of thought to figure out then, why do W like someone if not for the "nice" things H do, and how they make their W's feel. I get it that W like H who are strong, real, and confident in themselves as independent men - but it hasn't really sunk in yet. I'm doing it - but it seems artificial so far. What a learning process....
Thanks for suggesting these. I have a few more books to read, ones suggested on this thread. But, really, these two have already opened my eyes. And, at least I know I'm not alone!
(see, smiling)
