I think it must be more the sense of excitement that is attractive to them. If they were to really hook up with a "bad boy", they might realize it wasn't the kind of life they wanted full time.
I find it interesting that your W and this lady both are attracted to that type, and one M you and one is dating you.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
