"so when does it start to sink in for them that they have made a mistake?"
Your W didn't make a mistake. In fact, she'd already pushed you into the friend zone and you've been waiting for her to "see what she's been missing". Well she doesn't miss anything.
So here's the 2x4.
What is she really missing? You let it slide that you were willing to give up on the M by not talking to her initially and then giving her whatever she wants.
Start manning up.
Start with the ring. You told her that you wanted it back correct? But then she blatantly says that she's going to sell it.
Remind her of your agreement (even if there wasn't one, insist) and you decide what to do with it. Heck, tell her that you'd like to save it for someone special. Whatever.
As long as you continue to show her that you're a pushover, she's going to treat you as such. She doesn't respect you. Period.
Her asking how you're doing is her way of getting you to do what she wants. If she was really interested in what you were doing, she wouldn't be attaching statements like that at the end of a demand.
Tell her you'd like the ring back, then ignore her messages. Time to start getting your balls back from her.
End of 2x4.
M-43 W-40 2D - 9 and 5
Emotion, yet peace. Ignorance, yet knowledge. Passion, yet serenity. Chaos, yet harmony. Death, yet a new life.
