Thank you VERY much for your thoughts after my last post. I have been thinking about what you both wrote, reading parts of "I Do Again" by Jeff and Cheryl Scruggs over the weekend, and thinking about what to reply. I hope to post that response in the next couple days.
I'm posting tonight because I have a update of sorts. I visited X-MIL yesterday and found out that she has contracted a painful skin condition. She was being medicated with a narcotic and so she was pretty sleepy. If I hadn't known she was being medicated I would have thought she was slipping quickly. XH returned from his conference and visited sometime after me so I would imagine it was difficult for him to see her that way. Don't know whether he knew she'd been medicated when he visited. We exchanged 1 brief text message about the above..........so minimal communication from XH. Today I sent an e-mail to XH and his sister about their mother's medical condition. I received the following e-mail from X-SIL:
"GAG,
Wanted to thank you again for the book and lunch on Saturday. I really enjoyed talking with you, and paid the price later (Mr. GAG was REALLY ticked!). Such is life.
You have come so far after your divorce and have certainly made lemonade out of lemons. I'm impressed that you have joined a divorce support group and that you have so many new interests! I'm very proud of you! I'm not sure I could do that well if I were in your situation.
As always, I appreciate all you do for Mom.........I think as Mom's condition deteriorates, Mr. GAG will be less able to handle the situation. What that means is that if Mr. GAG seems short with you, just let it go. I know this is VERY hard for him to deal with this, and there's not one thing I can do to help him. OK, one thing - (omitted)..................I will continue to search for ways I can assist him with this. If you think of anything I can do for this situation from here, please let me know.
So, thanks for listening and being there for both Mr. GAG and me. You're one special lady!
Blessings,
X-SIL"
So I really appreciated the attagirl from X-SIL. It makes me wonder thought if I may be DB'ing so much that I'm outshining XH a bit......so I wrote this in a reply to X-SIL:
"X-SIL,
I want to add to my previous reply that Mr. GAG has played a huge role in helping to maintain the friendly relationship we have. Many of the people I know are surprised at how well Mr. GAG and I get along. I don’t think there are many people who would be able to do what we have done. I knew he was special when I got to know him and this proves it.
Just wanted you to know that I give Mr. GAG a lot of credit for this.
