Wow Irish!! That is so sad! And, honestly one of the very reasons I moved my kids away from the "crazytown" we lived in. It was just too much and so unfair to them to have to deal with that kind of stuff. I hate that they don't have their dad in their lives and am not sure I made the right choice, but when I think of those types of things happening I think I might of. But, your S sounds very strong and will only get stronger from that stuff, life isn't fair and we don't get to chose our parents. I have felt several times today that I wish I had picked a better dad for my kids, but I didn't and have to help my kids live with that and learn from it.
Antonia...thanks sooo much for that!! I feel the exact same way about my relationship with my XH when it you talked about "Because I'm afraid that if I can't have him, I can't have anyone. I either "fix" him or I "fix" the broken marriage or I'm "doomed" to being single forever." I hate being alone, I loved being married and I sometimes feel I will never feel as whole or complete with anyone else no matter what, that XH is the only one for me and I will never have what I had with him with someone else, for so many reasons. It is silly cause I know people do it all the time, but I meant my vows and I hate the idea of starting over with someone else, it seems like such a long road ahead to have to do that, daunting at times and maybe not worth the effort.
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Me-40 XH-44 T-21 M-18 Div-19 mo. D-18,S-15,D-11 Bomb-7/07 EA,PA Mvd out-9/07-to give me space mvd back-12/07 mvd out-7/08 back with OW since 2/08 OW broke it off-1/10 in and out of tunnel and our life since!!
