I am so sorry! I understand this pain about the house so much. XH let our beautiful home with over 100k in equity go to short sale over a year ago. You are still young, you can have a house again, don't get discouraged. My credit is ruined too, but I am hopeful that I can get it straightened out at some point and own a home again.
I don't really understand the family thing with your H..why do they hate you so much? I have read most of your sitch, but don't see how this all went down and why they don't like you, when you seem sooo very likable. Do they have a relationship with D12?
I am not in a good place with XH right now and had a really awful day with him. I have come to a place where I really wonder why I am fighting so hard for this man, who is so in and out of reality and logic?!? I know there have to be "normal" men out there and I am sure I will meet one someday when I am ready.
I hope you have a much better day tomorrow and I am still just so very sorry about what your H is doing to your daughter. I can take it, but what sets me off the most is when he hurts our kids.
That is what happened today with us, he said he was coming up here on Wednesday, but wasn't sure when he was leaving, I asked "why" and he said because he is coaching some other kids (not our kids since we live far away) basketball team. I didn't say much, then today, it was really getting to me that he was going to cut his visit short with his own kids go go be with other peoples kids and I sent him an email, very nicely expaining that this wasn't a good idea for our kids sake. He never responded, so I texed him asking if he got the email..he said he did, but was still waiting to hear when he had to get back for this basketball practice. I was sooooo upset...I said "why does it matter? Can't you put your own kids first for one weekend?" He then called me yelling at me saying "your such a hot head (which I use to be but am not at all anymore), I am trying to get the schedule figured out so I can cover the practices" By this time I was crying and was very calm..I just told him that I wanted him to put our kids first and he said "then you shouldn't have moved them away", and hung up on me!! Wow!! Typical MLC stuff, blaming me... and I am so sick of it. I texted him and said "until you realize that what YOU did is the only reason we moved away, you will remain an angry and bitter man, move on, this is where we are now, you chose this and I have forgiven you for all you have done to me, it is time for you to forgive me"
It is a mess, he is a mess, and I am just tired of being the good person, the strong person, and not rocking the boat with him. He goes from wanting all of us to live in the same town to not even caring if he sees his kids or spends time with them. What a loon! I am sure he will come up here anyway, but I really think he has pushed me far enough this time, he is on his own. You can hurt me all you want, but continue to mess with my kids and I will bite back and hard!!!
Sorry to go on and on...but I want you to be strong and not give in like I have and continue to "drink the kool-aid" as Mila puts it...You are doing great!! Love your daughter and love yourself, you both deserve better and the very best!!
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Me-40 XH-44 T-21 M-18 Div-19 mo. D-18,S-15,D-11 Bomb-7/07 EA,PA Mvd out-9/07-to give me space mvd back-12/07 mvd out-7/08 back with OW since 2/08 OW broke it off-1/10 in and out of tunnel and our life since!!
