So last night I was chatting on FB with some friends and i get a text from W. Very unusual since we hardly ever talk on the weekends. Here is the text:
W "You still up?"
M "Ayup" (got that from gritter
W "I just noticed something interesting on FB"
M "Ok...What's that?"
W "Niece 1 and Niece 2 deleted me......lol"
M "Oh really. I didn't know that"
W "I am sure u didn't.....lol"
M "Haven't spoken to either one since xmas. No I didn't I only really go to put up videos"
At this point I figured I would call. Since exchange was not simmply about my nieces removing her from FB. So I did
M "Yeah so they deleted you huh? Well I wouldn't pay to much attention to it. They prob assume like most people that we are done and done, stick a fork in us."
W "yeah. They deleted me like I never really existed. I mean they are your family not mine so there is no reason to have me on there. I just thought it was a little weird."
M "You know how family and friends are. They rush to your aid and want evreything to be better for you. Believe it or not I have not talked to anyone in the family about my sitch. Only 4 people have asked"
W "I am sure they got your point of view"
M "you would be surprised actually they all came to my rescue telling how to feel and how I should move on. They also told me if a woman does not love you move on. I explained why I felt you needed to leave. They have all walked away with a different perspective"
W "That is not the case though. I did not leave because I did not love you. It had nothing to do with how much I loved you. I left to protect myself. It's funny after family and friends are done making you feel good about yourself everyone really goes and lives their own lives. Friends stop asking family stops asking and then you realize how truly alone you are. That your spouse is really the only friend you have"
M "I know what you mean. I lost my BF and my spouse all in one shot. You lost it over time"
W "yeah I wonder what is worse losing it all at once or over time"
M "I don't know. It is tough either way. I want you to know that I still consider you my BF. I think I always will. I still catch myself wanting to call you during the day or wanting to tell you something funny that happened."
W "I do to sometimes"
We talked a little more then...........
W "I don't think when I lay in bed. I stopped myself from thinking"
M "you gotta let me know how that works. I can't stop myself from thinking to save my life. I read in bed"
W "I don't read anymore"
M "you use to read every nigt"
W "yeah but what do i read?"
M "Romance Novels......Oh yeah I get it"
W "I just stay up till my eyes shut. I think about I can leave for work and not make my bed and when I come home it will still look messy or that I can go to be with my dishes in the sink and no one will complain or how much I like my apartment. Little things like that"
M "I usually stay up and read"
The conversation was like this back and forth for a little bit
M "you know I can read a non romance book to you at night. It would be like me reading you bed time stories"
W "how long is the first chapter of this book you want to read to me"
M "oh I don't know. A few pages I think. Maybe 4-5."
W "Do you mind I would like to wash my face and get ready for bed then I will lay in bed and you can read it to me"
M "sure I will be up. just call me when you are ready"
A few minutes later she called and we read 5 Love Languages. Only the first chapter.
W "very interesting."
M "there is a question at the end of the chapter why don't you give me an answer and I will give an answer and we can compare."
W "ok"
The question was 'There would be less divorce is people would just learn to__________________?'
W "Listen"
M "Communicate"
M "Ok well Chapter 2 is small but you sound tired and so am I if you would like call me tomorrow and we can read it, or when ever you want."
W "Ok yeah I am tired. Goodnight. I will call again H"
M "goodnight W"
That was it. Nothing bad can come from me reading this book.
