BLUF: If you reconcile, it CANNOT be the old M. Either way, D or R, you have to mourn the loss of the old M.
It's a process.
It doesn't necessarily mean she's made a decision one way or the other. And even if she has, it doesn't mean she can't change her mind in a week or a month.
It's a process.
She's talking to you! She's having deep emotional conversations with you! She's letting you in her head!
Those are all FANTASTIC things!
She's not THERE yet. She it not ready to give it another try, to believe that things can be different. But she has her doubts. She is remembering the good times.
She acknowledged she had some fault in what happened! She acknowledged that you were not always a bad H!!!!
THOSE ARE HUGE!!!! Not only does she have those doubts, those second thoughts, SHE ADMITTED THEM TO YOU OUT LOUD. That is a huge positive!
Keep building on this! You are making great progress!!!
Michelle:
I think you are right AGAIN. The fact that she shares certain things with me is a very good thing for me. I know how many people wish they had this, although sometime it is also a curse because it makes you feel so hopeless to do anything. Her acknowledging that I had some good qualities and then telling me what they where is a very good thing. Let's me know she is thinking.
