Hey True, look at you, all growed up and so wise. LOL!
Hiya Misser!
At the beginning, I often wondered which my exh was. He had an affair, lost weight, etc. But, he was never nasty, said he wanted a divorce but never did anything about it for a long time, etc.
Still don't know for sure. Doesn't matter.
Here's the thing. No marriage or the two people in it are ever perfect. There is always room for change, for growth. However, it is often not until it is too late, that we realize it.
But, we kind of get a heads up.
It is up to us whether we use the knowledge to do what we need to do.
I have posted many times that it doesnt matter what the heck your spouse is. What matters is if you are going to take advantage of the information you now have and use it to become the person you were meant to be.
We are given a tremendous gift. I would not have traded any of the pain for what I have learned.
So, WAS, MLC or crazy, take the info and run with it.
We got a wake up call. In the process, we get to learn who we are, what we want, what we will accept.
If you get a new marriage on top of that, great.
If not, man, you get to live your life with eyes wide open.
