2step, you are right on all accounts. The patting on the back thing is big with me (as I'm sure you can tell on these boards) I honestly don't want to be seeking it out and I don't BUT when I don't get it, it hurts. That's my deal to figure out and work with for sure. Not hers.
I especially appreciate being called out. That puts everything in perspective for sure. It's almost like I have to wake up every morning and "review" what to do for the day until it becomes normal.
This whole patience thing is what is the most difficult. It's not just the R either but my career. I've started down a slightly different path that isn't so easy to sustain. It's frustrating dealing with it and sometimes wonder how much I can take (the career, not the M - at least today). So it's just compounding.
much better day today as well. She even texted me to see how my day was going. Man, I only put this new thing into place for one night and it's already better
m 40 w 38 married 15 together 18 d11, d8 bomb 12/19/10 2nd bomb 3/30/11 COMPLETELY DONE