You know but i think the elephant in the room is still her A. Did you guys come to any resolution on that?
That is a HUGE elephant. I have been advised on here to detach from it completely.
No resolution. Her therapist told her right after I presented my knowledge of the A that my wife break off contact. She said that she has, but my W has of course been FULL of lies in the last few months.
Last therapy session, she told me how she has never had an emotional connection with any other person in her life like the OW. She is working with her therapist now to discuss her sexual orientation. That is why I have been patient.
Do I believe that my W is still not in contact? It eats me up inside, but I think it would be impossible to think otherwise. Would getting her own apartment on Saturday make it easier? Yep.
But again, I cannot control her actions, only mine. That is very easy to write. It has been a daily struggle to do. It makes my stomach upset everyday just to think about it, so I have been doing my best not to think about it.
I just find the struggle thinking that it would be nearly impossible to make any progress in therapy during our separation if the A continues. In a normal circumstance, the A would usually fizzle. In this case, I am not so sure.
Me - 33 W - 33 S - 9 months M - 3 years T - 5.5 years Bomb - 12/14/10 ILYBNILWY PA discovered - 1/18/11 PA began - 3/22/10 Separated
