So when she writes ILY, that isn't motivation? (I'm not trying to be a jerk here) What does it mean when she writes that? It it rote to you? Have you consider asking her about how she feels things are moving or where they are headed. I know you aren't in MC which makes things harder in my opinion.
I do agree that she needs to acknowledge your work too. Of course, you don't want to bring it up to pick a fight.
It's funny we all have things that bug us about our situations. Things that we aren't getting.
Patience is bitter, but its fruit is sweet. --Jean Jacques Rousseau.