H takes all the blame - why?

[angel61]

Grace, you are right, the kids understand more than we think. My D12 said the other night that her Dad did not tell her anything useful when they spoke, he still thinks she's a child and she does not think that way anymore. I know H was trying to make her understand but that is not what she wants; she does understand the situation and has forgiven him as well, all she wants is reassurance.... and it may be just the reassurance that we will be there for her, no matter what.

I am thinking of what you told me, that the letter will not be taken the way it is intended, and I think you are right there. he will just view it as a criticism.

Our conversations of late have started being cheerful again. He is still out of town but makes it a point to call 1-2x a day.

My anxiety is lessening, I am again looking outward and managed to have a really fun weekend with my sis and D12. We went for a long drive, went sight seeing, visited a historic city, and shopped. All unplanned.... so all the more fun! Also managed to start a re-upholstering project at home. Keeping busy is the key.

D12 also is back to normal.

Well, back to the daily DBing grind!