I've been on these boards long enough to know. This crap doesn't work. Sorry to burst your bubbles, but what percentage of people on this board actually get their spouses back? I'd venture to guess that it's less than 10%. So you all can sit on here, wasting your lives away, hoping to hit it big off the lottery. Not me. I stood for my marriage for 6 months & the only thing I regret is not kicking him out the door the second he dropped the bomb.
I can understand that you feel this way.
Based on the tone of your response...I am not surpised it didn't work.
Sorry to be so blunt
BUT
I personally do not measure the success garnered by being here by whether the M is saved or not.
For me going through the process has changed my life.
That is not what I was seeking when I came here. I wanted to save my M.
So depends on how you look at it.
Your tactics didn't work? You didn't save your M because your H chose something else?
There are many reasons a M can fail but you only control the ones based on the choices you make.
The opportunity to look at the ones you made before the tragedy and how you handle it going forward...to be the person you want to be....
Not a victim of someone else's bad behavior.
Based on that...
the chances of success here are 100% for anyone choosing to endeavor to walk down that path.
Good luck to you.
My goal is to some day be the person my dog thinks I am
