Its not only men who want to pursue, women like it too! I think its human nature to want what's hard to get.
Just to give you another woman's perspective: I think back to some of the fun times in my M, and the days that stand out are those where H and I are comfortable, laughing, having fun, but later, the fun turns more into light flirting, glances across the room, with a sexual undercurrent, not too obvious. Especially during a social event. Not too much PDA.
You were being too intense, what with all that poetry.Keep it fun and friendly. Save the poetry for the time when you renew your vows....
Me:49 H:45 D:12 M:14 T:18 Bomb: 6/26/10 EA: 9/3/10, fizzled out slowly, now ??? 11/5/11 Retrouvaille Finally piecing.... Its peaceful at last, but we got a looong way to go