What I was (and I believe others here too are) driving at is: if you continue to allow feelings of "hate" and other emotions "attach" you to your lying, cheating, SOB, spouse, You will never really be "free" of him/her or in other words "detach". If you truly want to "move on", you have to let it go in your mind and in your heart. In most cases "forgiveness" allows you to do that.
Me 53 XW 50 M 18 Years +2 S14 D19 Bomb 10-24-10 Served 1-27-11 Mediate 4-21-11 Civil D Final 6-2-11 No church anullment "A man is not finished when he is defeated, he is finished when he quits."
