Hello, This is my first post. My wife of 16 years dropped the bomb on me on 2/10 that she is no longer feeling emotionally connected and needs to find herself. She went to her sister's apartment over the following weekend and came back with the conclusion we need to get a divorce. This was on the heels of going to counseling for 2 years starting 3 years ago. I felt we were in a much better place and we were very capable of solving our own issues. Unfortunately, I love her now more than I ever have. I was able to talk to her about doing mediation instead of a trial and I also told her I needed more time. I did pick up a copy of DR from the library and I've read it cover to cover, and I am re-reading it now. I am doing the Last Resort technique. I already inherently did the 180 part up front because I just listened and really didn't try to change her mind. I am working on the GAL now. I am just having a hard time being creative. I am being upbeat, and I did take our 10 year son snow tubing over the weekend. I am thinking about doing a personal spiritual retreat out of state next weekend. She is applying a lot of pressure to start the divorce mediation and to talk to our son about it - which I am totally dreading.
