A Whole New Bolt

[Bolt]

yep and I agree on all accounts from you all. Her and I had a nice talk last night where it even got pretty heated as in yelling (we haven't done that in a long time so I was actually a little relieved, in a way)

BUT

We did resolve quite a bit. She was saying a lot of what you are saying to a TEE. Which is also good. The thing is, we got into this mess not only because I was selfish, disrespectful,etc but ALSO because she didn't know how to communicate with me and then shut things down.

We both don't want that to happen so we want to express our feelings with each other. The last thing we both want is one side to shut down because they feel like they are either "going nowhere" or "not being heard".

We cleared the air and said, we both just want it to happen naturally and have fun with it. Have fun just being. Have fun being around each other without this pressure of the "relationship" hanging over us.

It was honestly the best news I could hear. It's what I really wanted to hear. It's been hard because I have NEVER been insecure with my relationship with her. This is all new territory for me. I don't fear another man in the relationship at all (anymore) but I was fearing losing her.

Now I know what she wants and it's what I want (I'm at least pretty sure on that).

I will back off in the way of pursuing as much but I'm still going to be speaking her LL just to keep that interest.

What is that GRR, stay JUST out of arms length so she can grab ME back in?

TDB thanks for the encouragement too. It really helps a ton especially from someone who has experienced exactly this. To me, it makes no sense but from what you, the others, and especially GRR are saying, it helps me to at least SEE her side.

You know the funniest part about all of this?

She was the snuggliest(new word, just made it up) last night that she's been in a long time. It seemed like I was in her arms all night.