Shine on you crazy diamond II

[FellOnBlackDays]

Iwl,
Can you send me some details on how long you would go without contact. This is the exact thing I was worried about. We had the same issue. When I would travel for business or she would travel for business, she would get upset that I would not initiate more contact. It was a real issue in our M. She complained about it incessantly. She was always accusing me of not caring about the M because I would never call or spend time on the phone with her.

So, here I am "going dark" and now it has been 15 days since any contact at all. She is mad about the S because she felt like it was her only option. Therefore, she is not going to make contact. She feels like she already did enough for the M. But, I have everyone telling me to "stay dark." I just don't think that is going to work for me. I did that for two months last year. When it was over, she thanked me for giving her some space and told me that we could communicate going forward. But, I think I might have let this "going dark" thing go to far. I just don't know any more. I am so confused. I read one book that said even in the "going dark" phase, you should still initiate some small contact at least once every 7 days or so to make sure they realize you are still around and still care. I am quite certain by now, she is sitting around saying, "I knew it, the same old him. Not calling, not caring."

This is the longest her and I have ever gone without any contact in the 15 years we have known each other. I am starting to really worry...

FOBD