Not Sure Which Way to Go

[gr8 day 2B alive]

Well, she does still care or she wouldn't bother questioning you. But it's kind of like....she doesn't want you right now, but she doesn't want anyone else to have you.

This is exactly right.

The WAW doesn't want you but they don't want you with any OW.

This is where your value grows.

See the WAW only focuses on the negative. Once OW show interest in you it makesthem think. Hmmm What is she seeing in him that I'm not?

Wow he's happy now, WHY?
The WAW is no happier now then when she was with you.

That can't be to them.
She thinks you should be unhappy without her.

Guess what, you happy now. Living life and thriving.

People want to be around others whove confidence and know where there going in life.

See how one mysterious car parked outside your house can make her go crazy?

These convos you are having with her are too long and informative to her. Do not tell the opponent your game plan. You don't need to discuss any visitors you had over with her. She left right? That means she removed herself from your life and has no say in what you do and associate with.

LESS WORDS will have a bigger impact.
You are in an excellent postion here.

This is where it gets tricky and harder.

Keep doing what you're doing. Be mysterious, keep the talk about the kids and keep GALing.

Caution: When/if she comes back- If you go all in to make the R work, it will turn her off.

REPEAT, IF YOU GO ALL IN TO MAKE THE R WORK YOU WILL TURN HER OFF!
That was my mistake.

A soft rejection is needed first.... She will come to you and try to talk R. You will be so excited, I was too, but you can't be.
A soft rejection means you tell her "I don't know how I feel about us anymore"
That's myterious. It's makes her work harder for your attention.
It shows confidence in that you will be just fine either way.


Oh BTW, let's be honest here.
If Sandi and I didn't talk about the power you what would happen if you "talked or Dated" OW, would you have called this friend from HS?

Just curious.

gr8