My wife dropped the bomb on me on 2/10. She told me she no longer felt emotionally connected and needed to find herself. She went away for the following weekend to her sister's apartment. When she came back, I had already unwittingly started a 180 by just taking the position to listen and understand instead of trying to change her mind.
We went through 2 years of counseling starting about 3 years ago. It really seemed to help. It showed me a great love for her. However, we had been drifting a bit and I felt we needed to address it. I still felt as a result of counseling, we were in a better place than we ever had been in our marriage. That was before she dropped the bomb.
During the weekend she was away I discovered this Website. I considered signing up for the coaching the entire week. I was able to talk her into pursuing mediation in lieu of each of us hiring a lawyer. However, I am still quite frankly a little stunned and really need more time, though she is pressuring me to tell our son and get moving with a mediator. I did end up signing up with a coach and had my first session last week. I have read DR cover to cover, and I'm starting my second time through.
I am taking the Last Resort option. I am currently trying to Get a Life.
She did corner me last night and I ended up talking about the relationship, which was against my better judgment at this time. She is also suspicious about this counselor I found online (My DB coach), and I want to find the right way to tell her what I'm wanting to do without her feeling like I am trying to thwart her Great Escape Plan.
