Letting her come to me is working better for me, too.

Way better.

Used to think she would feel upset if I didn't contact her. Felt she might think I wasn't available or there for her when she wanted me or something.

Make no mistake . They know they have the power to connect with us anytime they want. That is part of what makes us unattractive.

As the old joke goes, a little boy and a little girl are in the playground. The little boy pulls down his shorts and proudly says

"Look at this! I've got one of THESE!"

The little girl shrugs and hiking up her skirt says

"Yeah but I've got one of these. And with one of these, I can have as many of those as I want."

But now I've realized there is an even better punchline.

"Guys we're no longer little boys. We're men."

Granted that line isn't quite as funny, but it certainly puts the ball(s) back into our court.

I am being the possibility of:

1) Integrity
2) Loving myself completely.
3) Things flowing naturally between us, without any fear or attachment to the outcome.

"It's do-able." What are the actions now?